Friday, April 30, 2010

First simple experiment.

"After the chaos, and life is still, things become more clear. You take a deep breath, and in the calmest of calm you realize, chaos is so much more fun." - Richard Olsen.

So tonight's experiment is very simple but crucial. To meet, greet, remember their names and what they do.

 I think this is one of the key to climbing the social ladder because the act of remembering anything about them or even merely their names are a thing usually dismissed. So when you do, people will [hopefully] make the same effort towards you.

 What i will do is remember at least one detail or fact about everybody i meet tonight. A fact that can be talked about the next time you see them which is the aim of the whole experiment, for example; Melanie, the girl who just broke up with her boyfriend. So the next time i see her. "Hey Melanie, how are you? [insert something you remember about her] and blah blah" even though this might be a very personal example but the fact that they have revealed that certain thing about themselves to you, regardless of whether they were drunk or not, if almost in a way gives you a permission to bring it up again, but remember never to put them down, show concerns but not an unrealistic amount because then they will start to question your intention.

 Also, Time limits. Try not to engage in a conversation for longer than 5-7 minutes. Make yourself seem unavailable but show that you enjoyed there company 'Hey John, i really enjoyed talking to you but i just have to go see my friend over there but i'll see you around' This indicate your interest for them, that you want to continue the conversation some other time. When starting a conversation with someone in a group, ALWAYS include the other people, this creates a more comfortable atmosphere between all and this prevents you from the awkward conversation ender.

This is really basic stuff but quoting what i said "i'll see you around" can be used even when you're not interested in carrying on the conversation else where because later on, i will also explore the art of negative body language to repel unwanted attention. To be approachable to those you want to approach you and to intimidate, enough, the people who you do not want to approach you from approaching you.

 I will say truly and honestly that i have studied and read all these techniques before so i'm just going out there to try it out for myself or for those who wants to follow can do this step-by-step, with me. I do not know in any way how it is going to work if it does but I'll let you know how it worked out and where my next aim will be!

P.s Remember not to get too drunk!! you need at least a bit of your brain clear at the beginning! When it becomes second nature to you, then you can get as drunk as you want!!

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