So i moved apartments yesterday from East Perth to Northbridge because my previous apartment has been sold as the very young nice Chinese landlord said was in process when i moved in 2 and a half months earlier. I am from Phuket, Thailand but hasn't been raised asian enough unlike me older sister, i've lost the Asian edge to defend myself against the Asian ways.
Ended up she pretty much kicked me and my housemates out but before i moved in she said she's give us at least 6 weeks notice but she only gave us 3 and as cowardly as she is Asian she sent her dad to 'fix A light bulb' and also happened to remember to mention that 'it's better you move in 5 days' so everybody had to move within 5 days instead of 8 but i was already planing to move then next day. My housemates were pissed. Hi Scott, Hi Ariane...Albee?
The next day she came to give me my bond back and bullshit, bullshit i ended up paying $50 to shampoo the carpet which i the new owner had said was to be pulled up and replaced by floor boards! My fault i didn't say anything but she made it sound like so legit i couldn't question her! and also for 2 extra nights which was actually only 1, and before i knew it, cha-ching!, another $60. ARGHH i don't even know what happened!
I will train to be more Asian and bargain better and THINK better!
Monday, May 3, 2010
The morning after.
So i wrote a massive post like 7 long paragraphs long and i realized i have to come up with a way to not make it so long, who wants to read an essay long blog.
Going back to Friday night, i guess i'll just do it in dot points.
Went to Capriccio in Northbridge to start, then to Wolf Lane in the city. I didn't even get IDed! (I don't have any kind of acceptable by Australian standard :() I thought i'd be offended but then i really thought about it, it's actually a compliment, it's like i have so much class they want me in their place ha! well whatevs.
*Talking to bouncers is a plus. Always ask how their night's going, failing to treat them any different and you're just another drunken crawler. Not enough people do it or at all that when you do, it sets you aside from everybody else. Do not over talk or be fake, keep it casual and try to appear as sober as you can. Be extremely stern but not stuck up. This is the kind of characters bouncers want in the clubs (unless it's on of the young teenagers club like The Rise, which i despise). Almost always guarantees recognition the second time.
The bouncer at the Mint nightclub recognized me by name (through fake ID, so i'm a Jane to him) from my first conversation with him the week before. Mission accomplished on this one.
To prove this really works, i will now go back to Wolf lane this week to see if the Brazilian bouncer who didn't ID me will remember me and regardless of whether she does or not, i will offer her my name. Go back another week and if she remember my name, you might think it could be faulty because they meet so many people, well my techniques is not to be normal but to be so goddamn special they will recognize you.
If this works again. Franchise number 1 will be born!
I didn't socialize with anybody or atteppt it at the Mint because the music was bad and loud and everybody was already drunk. I did though get a good practice on negative body language to repel weirdos from approaching and failed not once but twice. This country guy me and my gay friend got talking to outside the line was dancing really 'countrily' on front of me and i saw him eying me and i thought 'please god don't even think about getting me to dance especially not with you' and sure enough he did after dancing around in front of me like 5 times but what was god for me was i had to recline his invitation right next to the cute guy sitting right next to me on the same couch.
When me friend came back we went on the dance floor and a freaky white gangster looking dude tap me on the back, VERY BAD (approaching a girl from the bad will always creeps us out unless you're a CK model) and told me how 'fine' i was. It creeped me out. Cut the story short, i failed my goal to socialize with people and not look for anybody. The guy on the couch did ask for my number, he's a Jon and works for Ford. That's all so i didn't fail the 'remember something about them' thing. I'm meeting him tomorrow. Tuesday night! Bar 399 it is!
Tomorrow's experiment. Avoid sexual vibes, only suggest friendship. Let see how it goes!
See you around!
Going back to Friday night, i guess i'll just do it in dot points.
Went to Capriccio in Northbridge to start, then to Wolf Lane in the city. I didn't even get IDed! (I don't have any kind of acceptable by Australian standard :() I thought i'd be offended but then i really thought about it, it's actually a compliment, it's like i have so much class they want me in their place ha! well whatevs.
*Talking to bouncers is a plus. Always ask how their night's going, failing to treat them any different and you're just another drunken crawler. Not enough people do it or at all that when you do, it sets you aside from everybody else. Do not over talk or be fake, keep it casual and try to appear as sober as you can. Be extremely stern but not stuck up. This is the kind of characters bouncers want in the clubs (unless it's on of the young teenagers club like The Rise, which i despise). Almost always guarantees recognition the second time.
The bouncer at the Mint nightclub recognized me by name (through fake ID, so i'm a Jane to him) from my first conversation with him the week before. Mission accomplished on this one.
To prove this really works, i will now go back to Wolf lane this week to see if the Brazilian bouncer who didn't ID me will remember me and regardless of whether she does or not, i will offer her my name. Go back another week and if she remember my name, you might think it could be faulty because they meet so many people, well my techniques is not to be normal but to be so goddamn special they will recognize you.
If this works again. Franchise number 1 will be born!
I didn't socialize with anybody or atteppt it at the Mint because the music was bad and loud and everybody was already drunk. I did though get a good practice on negative body language to repel weirdos from approaching and failed not once but twice. This country guy me and my gay friend got talking to outside the line was dancing really 'countrily' on front of me and i saw him eying me and i thought 'please god don't even think about getting me to dance especially not with you' and sure enough he did after dancing around in front of me like 5 times but what was god for me was i had to recline his invitation right next to the cute guy sitting right next to me on the same couch.
When me friend came back we went on the dance floor and a freaky white gangster looking dude tap me on the back, VERY BAD (approaching a girl from the bad will always creeps us out unless you're a CK model) and told me how 'fine' i was. It creeped me out. Cut the story short, i failed my goal to socialize with people and not look for anybody. The guy on the couch did ask for my number, he's a Jon and works for Ford. That's all so i didn't fail the 'remember something about them' thing. I'm meeting him tomorrow. Tuesday night! Bar 399 it is!
Tomorrow's experiment. Avoid sexual vibes, only suggest friendship. Let see how it goes!
See you around!
Friday, April 30, 2010
After my night out.
I would totally blog right now but i'm drunk and tired. Will explain the disastrous conclusion tomorrow.
Sorry that i might disappoint but it was so hard to keep focus. Told ya this blog will be far from perfect or even correct. we can only try.
Good night.
p.s its only 4.
Sorry that i might disappoint but it was so hard to keep focus. Told ya this blog will be far from perfect or even correct. we can only try.
Good night.
p.s its only 4.
First simple experiment.
"After the chaos, and life is still, things become more clear. You take a deep breath, and in the calmest of calm you realize, chaos is so much more fun." - Richard Olsen.
So tonight's experiment is very simple but crucial. To meet, greet, remember their names and what they do.
I think this is one of the key to climbing the social ladder because the act of remembering anything about them or even merely their names are a thing usually dismissed. So when you do, people will [hopefully] make the same effort towards you.
What i will do is remember at least one detail or fact about everybody i meet tonight. A fact that can be talked about the next time you see them which is the aim of the whole experiment, for example; Melanie, the girl who just broke up with her boyfriend. So the next time i see her. "Hey Melanie, how are you? [insert something you remember about her] and blah blah" even though this might be a very personal example but the fact that they have revealed that certain thing about themselves to you, regardless of whether they were drunk or not, if almost in a way gives you a permission to bring it up again, but remember never to put them down, show concerns but not an unrealistic amount because then they will start to question your intention.
Also, Time limits. Try not to engage in a conversation for longer than 5-7 minutes. Make yourself seem unavailable but show that you enjoyed there company 'Hey John, i really enjoyed talking to you but i just have to go see my friend over there but i'll see you around' This indicate your interest for them, that you want to continue the conversation some other time. When starting a conversation with someone in a group, ALWAYS include the other people, this creates a more comfortable atmosphere between all and this prevents you from the awkward conversation ender.
This is really basic stuff but quoting what i said "i'll see you around" can be used even when you're not interested in carrying on the conversation else where because later on, i will also explore the art of negative body language to repel unwanted attention. To be approachable to those you want to approach you and to intimidate, enough, the people who you do not want to approach you from approaching you.
I will say truly and honestly that i have studied and read all these techniques before so i'm just going out there to try it out for myself or for those who wants to follow can do this step-by-step, with me. I do not know in any way how it is going to work if it does but I'll let you know how it worked out and where my next aim will be!
P.s Remember not to get too drunk!! you need at least a bit of your brain clear at the beginning! When it becomes second nature to you, then you can get as drunk as you want!!
So tonight's experiment is very simple but crucial. To meet, greet, remember their names and what they do.
I think this is one of the key to climbing the social ladder because the act of remembering anything about them or even merely their names are a thing usually dismissed. So when you do, people will [hopefully] make the same effort towards you.
What i will do is remember at least one detail or fact about everybody i meet tonight. A fact that can be talked about the next time you see them which is the aim of the whole experiment, for example; Melanie, the girl who just broke up with her boyfriend. So the next time i see her. "Hey Melanie, how are you? [insert something you remember about her] and blah blah" even though this might be a very personal example but the fact that they have revealed that certain thing about themselves to you, regardless of whether they were drunk or not, if almost in a way gives you a permission to bring it up again, but remember never to put them down, show concerns but not an unrealistic amount because then they will start to question your intention.
Also, Time limits. Try not to engage in a conversation for longer than 5-7 minutes. Make yourself seem unavailable but show that you enjoyed there company 'Hey John, i really enjoyed talking to you but i just have to go see my friend over there but i'll see you around' This indicate your interest for them, that you want to continue the conversation some other time. When starting a conversation with someone in a group, ALWAYS include the other people, this creates a more comfortable atmosphere between all and this prevents you from the awkward conversation ender.
This is really basic stuff but quoting what i said "i'll see you around" can be used even when you're not interested in carrying on the conversation else where because later on, i will also explore the art of negative body language to repel unwanted attention. To be approachable to those you want to approach you and to intimidate, enough, the people who you do not want to approach you from approaching you.
I will say truly and honestly that i have studied and read all these techniques before so i'm just going out there to try it out for myself or for those who wants to follow can do this step-by-step, with me. I do not know in any way how it is going to work if it does but I'll let you know how it worked out and where my next aim will be!
P.s Remember not to get too drunk!! you need at least a bit of your brain clear at the beginning! When it becomes second nature to you, then you can get as drunk as you want!!
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Social frachising.
Fran·chise [fran-chahyz] - A right or a privilege officially granted to a person, a group of people by a copyrighted body of their material.
The upper hand (e.g company which has the franchise package you want) makes up set rules and regulations which have to be followed in order to achieve a certain standard or goal. The concept of franchising is like a pre-made cake mix. You buy it, mix it with some milk and bam! you're like a pro.
So what about a social franchise? where to be able to reach a certain height of social dynamics, you can train to climb higher and higher on a particular social ladder to reach whichever social status you want to have.
I want to explore the effect different social techniques create. If my goal was to try and climb the social ladder and blend into the crowds of my desire, what do i have to do to get the right reactions and gain acceptance? and what sort of social techniques to use that gives out the right negative reactions to avoid unwanted attention?
My goal is to uncover the natural, unmistakable code of social dynamics, in another word, create my own social 'frachise'.
The experiment derived from the ideas and methods from the society of 'Pick-up artists'. I will aim to use the same kind of ideas and bend it to fit to more than a specify group which is 'women', i will use it on women as well as men, for women though (which will be a bit trickier), not for the purpose of picking them up to seduce them to get in their pants and gaining as many 'cherries' as i can possibly get but seducing them into letting me into their social group to gain a place in their scene. I'm guessing then the unspoken goal is to be accepted by all, to be the person everybody knows your name, wants to talk to and simply by using my body language, attain and distain the right attention. Also to be the socialite of the pack, and to be the socialite pack out of all packs amongst.
This blog will remain anonymous for the time being because i do not know how far i will go to achieve what i need. But here is a little bit about myself. I live in the city of Perth, Australia, a larger-than-population city where no fixed social line have been drawn. I think Perth will be a good city to explore this in as it hopefully will not be a complete social suicide if i do happen to fail due to the lack of social harshness of the social scene (i'm using the word 'social' a heck of a lot, it's distracting my writing!)
See you around bitches!
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